Hopefully some of the readers will be able to help out with this one.
Being single currently I was thinking about meeting women and how this relates to being in business.
I had a couple of thoughts but this could almost be a group writing project - I want to hear what you guys think.
1.) You don’t want to come across as too desperate. If you need a woman too much, or are earnestly seeking her approval, it’s a clear sign that you haven’t had much prior success. It’s the same with business : value the client, but contact them too much and they will resent you.
2.) Image counts. Women ‘aren’t visual’, they say. And then they step out into the real world and discover how life actually works. What I’m wearing, how recently I have shaved (either 1 hour before or 3 days before works nicely, nothing else), and how my hair is styled has made huge differences in my own life from one day to the next. Nearly all guys have natural disadvantages (I could use some cosmetic dental work) but if they let these define their package, they’re gone for all money. It’s the same with businesses : investing in your image creates an aura of professionalism. It could be the difference between a client choosing you over someone else.
3.) Success breeds success. Women gravitate to those who are confident in themselves and in their ability to deal with females. They’ll also gravitate to the famous/powerful/rich people in a room. It’s the same with business. You don’t necessarily need to be successful but if you’re a financial adviser who’s driving an 82 Volvo you won’t exactly inspire confidence. The way you dress (for example :)) speaks volumes about how much success you are having, and in turn, how much confidence is already being placed in you by other customers.
4.) It takes all your money, time and emotional happiness. Ok, that was just for a laugh. Load me up with some of your ideas!
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April 12, 2007 at 10:56 pm
Harmony
Hi Mat!
Interesting topic!
“1.) You don’t want to come across as too desperate. ”
-I agree. I think there is a fine line between keeping the ball in the air in the relationship and appearing desperate. One should strike while the iron is hot and find a way to keep momentum going in the relationship until a sort of comfort level/trust is reached. Maybe that’s where intuition and experience play a part?
“4.) It takes all your money, time and emotional happiness.”
-Well, you are probably right on the money with that statement. Hopefully, invested in the right person(s)
I would add, and it relates to #1, that connecting with people, whether for love or business, will produce the most chances at producing lasting relationships. Listening, asking the right questions, and paying a sincere interest in the other person are very important. I don’t give repeat business to merchants who don’t attempt to see what I need while in his store. Nor would I want to see someone again who gave me little or nothing or themselves emotionally.
Anyway, just my 2 cents.
April 12, 2007 at 11:07 pm
admin
Thanks for the great comment Harmony!
April 13, 2007 at 3:00 pm
Anthony
Hey Mat,
I would say being/having/doing something unique is always good - it’s a great way to start conversations. E.g. If you’re wearing something interesting this gives another person an excuse to come over and talk to you. The added bonus of this is that if they start the conversation you don’t look needy.